I
am a white woman who grew up in a small farming community in southeastern Virginia
during the days of segregation. Even as a child I sensed something was terribly
wrong with our way of life. I felt I was getting stop and go messages, mixed
signals, all the time. My parents and my church taught me the "golden
rule." Do into others as you would have them do unto you. But it was clear
that this golden rule was white rule. No white people I knew wanted to be done
unto as they were doing unto blacks -- forced to wait in line at the post
office until all the whites had been served, forbidden to sit at a table in the
drugstore and enjoy a Coke and Nabs like the white society ladies, barred from
ordering ice cream at the soda fountain, from eating at any local restaurant, from
swimming in the so-called public swimming pool, from going to the same school
my brother and I attended – barred from
doing everything I took for granted. And it wasn’t
as if these blacks were strangers. They were our neighbors and friends whom
some of us had known all our lives. Although my brother and I could play with the
children of our black neighbors just like regular kids on our farm, we couldn't
acknowledge that friendship in public. We couldn’t
ride the same school bus and go to school together. We couldn’t
go to church together and we couldn’t go to the
movies together. Well, we could, but whites had to buy tickets just inside the
street entrance and sit in the lobby; blacks had to buy tickets in the alley –
the same cashier sold the tickets -- she just rotated the stool on which she
sat to face the window where blacks bought their tickets, and they sat up in
the balcony. When I asked my parents why we couldn't sit and eat at the same
table as Bea and James, the black couple who worked for my parents, they told
me white people and colored people -- that was the term white Southerners used
then -- didn't eat together. But we were eating the same food that my mother
cooked for all of us. When I asked why, nobody gave me any answer that made any
sense; they just said that’s the way
things were. Some people said if God had wanted the races to mix, he wouldn’t
have made us different colors. Well why? You’re
not supposed to question God. But why not?
Then
there was the pledge of allegiance to the flag. You know –
the part about “liberty and justice for all.”
But there was no liberty and justice for all. Whites had more liberty and
justice than blacks.
So
I began to wonder if what my parents and the church and the pledge were
teaching me were all lies because the way we were living did not exemplify
those teachings. The song we sang in Sunday School was particularly bothersome.
“Jesus
loves the little children, all the children in the world. Red and yellow, black
and white, all are precious in his sight.”
Well,
if we were all precious why did white children have privileges that black
children didn’t have?
Why
did my white skin give me privileges that Bea and James and Emma Jane and Aunt
Sara and Uncle Bill and Rachel and Annie Lee and Carrie and Nancy and other
blacks in my community didn’t have?
Sometimes I inspected
my face in the mirror. What if I had been born with brown skin? I would still
be me but white people would treat me differently. I just happened to be born
with the skin of privilege. I hadn’t done
anything to earn that privilege nor had any other white person. The whole
system rested on the pernicious lie of white supremacy that undergirded slavery
and segregation and Jim Crow laws and that still undergirds racism today. White
people don't want to talk about it and don't want to own up to it because it
would expose the darkest side of their heart and soul. But until we have that
painful discussion, we will not take meaningful steps toward healing our country
of its racist wounds.
I
listen to white millionaire male politicians in Congress talk about Social
Security and Medicare as entitlements but that’s
wrong. These are programs into which Americans have paid throughout their
working lives. If these politicians want to confront entitlement, they only
need look in a mirror to see they embody the entitlement of the lie that being
born white carries privilege. You don't have to do anything to earn that
privilege. It’s your birthright if you have
white skin. This lie of white supremacy is the ultimate entitlement, the one we
should eliminate, not Social Security and Medicare.
For
a few days following the murders of nine people by a racist assassin in
Charleston, it seemed that meaningful actions to flush racism from our country
might begin with renewed vigor, that maybe after all the sorrow and grief and
anger and outrage, this time we wouldn't go back to tolerating racism as usual.
White politicians finally seemed to get it that the Confederate flag symbolized
slavery and lynching and raping and segregation and injustice and oppression.
It only took 150 years! The flags started coming down and several major
merchandisers announced they would no longer sell them. These were important
symbolic gestures, but symbolic gestures alone will not end racism. For a
few days, after the Charleston massacre, it seemed Americans were united
against this heinous crime, that instead of starting a race war, the white
supremacist terrorist had triggered a unified surge of blacks, whites,
Hispanics and other minorities in common commitment to heal this nation's open sore.
For a few days that's the way it seemed, but then the fires began –
at least eight predominantly African-American churches torched as of this date in
five southern states (Florida, Georgia, North Carolina, South Carolina and
Tennessee) since the Charleston murders. Not to be outdone by funerals for
slain African-Americans, the racists crawled out of their sewers to do the only
thing they seem capable of -- destruction.
It
makes me wonder -- how do racists live with themselves? Are they so devoid of
compassion, so bereft of humanity that they cannot imagine how they would feel
if someone came into their church and opened fire, killing their loved ones for
no reason other than the color of their skin? Have their hearts become so
frozen with hate that they would not shed tears or grieve their loss? instead
of showing compassion, these soulless barbarians have exposed their pitiful personhood
by burning black churches. In a former time they would probably have been among
the white people who brought picnics to lynchings as if attending outdoor
theatre.
Yes,
white people did that and some whites are still killing black Americans in the
modern equivalent of lynching -- the shooting of black men and boys by white
policemen and this latest atrocity in Charleston. Black Americans have been living
with these atrocities for centuries and too many whites have tried to deny
racism still exists, that it’s all in the
past. Charleston should demolish that illusion.
We
need to fess up. Yes, white people have to own up to racism. No, those of us
alive today didn't create slavery but some of us born in the South have
ancestors who kept slaves. Many of us abhor this legacy of evil and many whites
have given their lives fighting for civil rights and justice for all, but the
historical truth of our racist way of life –
the truth our segregated history has conveniently whitewashed -- rests on whites
who kept slaves and went to war to maintain that awful system, and later generations of whites who perpetrated that system with discrimination against African-Americans in housing and employment opportunities and education. Although slavery
ended with the passage of the 13th Amendment on December 6, 1865,
its terrible legacy of the myth of white supremacy continues to rip apart our
national soul and wound our nation more than any foreign threat from Al Qaeda
or ISIS. The young white man who shot nine of our fellow Americans Charleston,
South Carolina, didn't come out of nowhere. He is the product of our racist
culture, nurtured and groomed by the belief in white supremacy that continues
to influence racist attitudes, discrimination, criminalization of black men,
shooting of black men and boys by white policemen, and now this latest mass
murder of African-Americans. We should be grief-stricken and we should shed our
tears and mourn, but we should also take action beyond collective grief. And we
should stop trying to paint those who murder black Americans as mentally
deranged, lone wolves or bad apples. Racists know what they're doing and to
whom they're doing it.
In
his eloquent eulogy for Reverend Clementa Pinckney, the slain pastor of Emanuel
African Methodist Episcopal Church, President Obama said it would be a betrayal
of all the reverend stood for “if we allowed
ourselves to slip into a comfortable silence again once the eulogies have been
delivered, once the TV cameras move on.” He also
noted a lot of real racial progress has been made. I have experienced that in my own
life, growing up in a segregated southern community that is now so integrated
that interracial families can live here comfortably and safely. This happened
because blacks and whites of good will banded together to transform this
community. For me, it’s a powerful example that we are
not beyond redemption if we commit to working together with mutual respect.
It's
not easy to own responsibility for perpetrating a system that has and continues
to hurt so many of our fellow Americans, but we would not still be a racist country if whites
had not tolerated racism, had not elected racist politicians who passed
legislation to obstruct voting rights and who support policies that only
perpetuate racist violence.
Perhaps
we could take a page from South Africa’s
Truth and Reconciliation process, which helped that country move from apartheid
to democracy. We are in a struggle here to maintain and fulfill the promise of democracy. Put yourself in a black American’s
shoes. Would you be man enough or woman enough to walk in them? Shed the skin
of entitlement that has so permeated our culture, conveyed in thousands of
insidious ways. Know that we are more similar than we are different. Beneath
the superficial color of our skin, we carry DNA that connects every human being
on Earth today to people that appeared in Africa some 200,000 years ago.
Scientists tell us that race is meaningless biologically, that we all belong to
the one human species on our planet, Homo
sapiens. Sapiens means wise. May we
strive to live up to our species name.